How Family Trauma Hides In Everyday Habits with Caroline Crocker

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Some pain never introduces itself. It hides in the way we brace for disappointment, in the rules nobody questions, and in the reactions we learned before we had words. I sit down with author and speaker Caroline Crocker to talk about intergenerational trauma and how it passes down through families even when the original story is never spoken out loud.

We get specific about what “inherited trauma” can look like in real life: a startle response that feels random, a deep fear of men that doesn’t match your present-day reality, or a relationship with food shaped by scarcity decades ago. Caroline shares powerful family stories rooted in World War II, including the Netherlands Hunger Winter, and what she discovered while researching and writing about her parents. Along the way, we unpack how children treat their parents’ coping strategies as normal, and how that quiet normalisation shapes the nervous system, attachment, and trust.

We also talk about the first steps that don’t feel overwhelming. Sometimes parents can’t talk about what happened, and pushing for disclosure can do damage. Instead, we focus on gentle noticing, reality-checking patterns with safe people, and getting trauma-informed support. Finally, we tackle forgiveness with clear boundaries: it isn’t excusing harm or pretending it didn’t matter, it’s choosing to stop carrying the poison, one honest moment at a time.

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